Quarter to nine in the evening.
I’m listening to N.W.O. by Ministry
My day? Hella busy.
Last night, somewhere between cooking supper and math homework, MD looks at me and says, “Oh yeah! Don’t forget I have to bring doughnuts to school this morning.” I stopped stirring the quiche mix and said, “The whole seventh grade or just your class?”
Once a month students are assigned a specific day to bring in breakfast to enjoy after mass. It was eight p.m. when my son realized it was his turn. When Bill headed in the kitchen, I mentioned it- as we were already heading to the grocery. You know that’s some serious love when you plan a date night to the grocery store. The only downside to that, is no one gives free samples at quarter to ten on a Tuesday night. Get your shit together grocery stores!
We decided that we’d pick up a couple dozen doughnuts from the bakery up the street from us. Hands down, best doughnuts I’ve ever eaten. At five this morning, Bill was placing the order, by five thirty he was out the door to pick them up. In the meantime, I was scrambling to dry my hair while also screaming down the hall for MD to get up.
Every Wednesday without fail, we can’t locate his tie for his mass uniform. Today however, MD knew it was on the hall floor under the new pack of toilet paper I bought. It’s the little things people. Little things. The two of us were dressed and coming down the stairs, clock running. I am a stickler for the schedule in the morning. I never leave the house after 6:30 a.m.
Today we were out the door, lunches in hand (thanks to my awesome husband) and in the car by 6:24. We pulled into the school parking lot at 6:52. I helped MD carry his gear in, as he had another ingrown toe removed earlier in the week. One giant back pack, one small duffel bag for Drama clothes, his lunch and 4 dozen doughnuts.
And I’m in heels.
After I drop MD off, I sit in traffic for an hour.
I go to lunch. Sometimes I eat food. Sometimes I sleep in my car. Sometimes I write (like today).
I come back and work some more.
I go home.
I sit in traffic for close to two hours. Unless of course, MD has tutor. Some days I pick him up and take him. Or Bill. Or my brother in law. Everyone coordinates their arrivals and departures. We even discuss the ebb and flow of traffic. Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursdays are the long days- as we won’t get home till 7:30 p.m.
Then it’s homework till nine or so.
Then we watch a movie or cut up. However, because MD is in drama, he’ll have practice till six. Then tutor. Then home. Or if there’s a band concert, we scramble to beat traffic, eat food and then watch him kick ass in a concert. That lasts till 8:30. Then we go home. Then there’s homework. Then we all collapse. Most days I think about doing the laundry- but to be honest, I am so wiped out, I just go to bed and snuggle with my husband.
As I was writing this, I actually started to get a little stressed out. When you are in constant go mode, you don’t realize how much you’re doing until you write it all down. Hell, half the time I feel like this:
That’s probably where the heart palpitations started. Thinking about all the driving to and fro I’d be doing. So I did what I thought was best:
I closed WordPress and left this post alone. Until now.
Do you know what was awesome today? Not the fact that traffic was moving at a decent clip or even that the sun wasn’t in my eyes the entire time. The nicest part of my evening was sitting outside on the patio of a coffee shop, sipping Chai tea with my husband while the sun set. We chit chatted about our work days, the game plan for the weekend and just general stuff.
It was relaxing.
Then I realized that it was quarter till seven. One of us had to get home, let the dog out and start supper. The other would stay and wait for MD to get out of tutor.
Rock. Paper. Scissors.
I headed home, Bill stayed back.
While I was in the kitchen, I felt the wave of Mom guilt wash over me. Should I work? Should I stay home? Am I involved enough at school? Does everyone have clean underwear? Will they like what I’m making for supper? I took a deep breath and kept chopping veggies while the garlic sauteed in sesame oil.
Once supper (mushroom and chickpea stew) was simmering and the house was smelling delicious, the crew started stumbling in. Everyone carries a back pack, a lunch bag, a laptop. We all kick our shoes off by the back door, even though we come up from the garage. We all hug and kiss each other hello because quite frankly, we’ve missed each other.
Then, the evening begins and unwinds. Eventually I’ll go to bed. Maybe it’ll be before one a.m., although lately I’ve been waking up around 2:30 in the morning to jot down poems. Then I go back to sleep for another two hours.
There is still laundry to be folded, but right now, I’d rather spend time with my family than fold socks.